St Andrews Counselling & Psychotherapy
|Posted on 6 January, 2018 at 10:55|
Well, I've been in my new office for a couple of months now and in the beginning I felt slightly out of place. I don't think I had factored in to moving premises, after several years working from my office at home, the impact this would have on me. To start with I thought I had made a mistake, this move felt wrong in some way, I felt a loss of comfy cosiness and familiarity. Moving involved a geographical relocation but also a psychological moving on and I guess I hadn't accounted for this.
At best I would liken this to starting a new job, getting used to driving here, a new routine, finding a place for things and then finding them again!
Having the furniture in different places, changing locations has more to it than I had imagined and had taken for granted.
Then there was my clients who had got used to coming to my office at home, they had to relocate and find me for the first time, where to park, how to let me know they were there, could they come right in or use the waiting room first? Where would they sit? How would they be somewhere else?
To begin with the newness felt awkward and clunky, did I belong here?
I connected with my past and my childhood of moving every 2 or less years around the world and having to settle in and find my place there, of feeling out of place and not belonging. To get to know a new location, people, settings and routine and how hard this was for me as a child, to get settled only to be uprooted and move again. This was the familiar feeling of loss, and one I know my clients feel, of being "out of place", grief and bereavement, loss of relationship, loss of a sense of self and place in the world.
Yes I had underestimated the power of moving and being moved and the loss of the familiar and change in routine. This has helped my reflect on what has happened to me and how this connected me to my past and the importance to account for this when being in the present and considering the future.
Categories: New Office